So keeping up appearances is still a big deal in Malaysia I would think, that is if you want to thrive in some sort of way. But the advent of social media and smartphone apps like Grindr, Wechat, and others enables gay men to socialise in a more efficient but still private manner.
Though there are many many successful crossdressers and transvestites in the cities, involved in various fields, appearance is still a big problem for them when it comes to finding their place in society, which is a sad thing.I can say their lifestyle is more difficult as they need to make ends meet while putting up with the stigma that still exists for people like them.Of course, their hardships are also related in some ways by their socioeconomic situation and educational backgrounds.I was very scared, because I am not confident about stuff and feared they might find fault at our being in the same room together. When the religious personnel found out there were only 2 guys in the room, instead of finding a guy with a girl, they left.I believe there was another incident of a reforming-style camp in Terengganu state, or someplace else, for guys who dressed up as women (referred to in the Malay slang as ).
While life as a gay young person growing up during the 1980s certainly was rough, I know that many people had it much worse. As I contemplated living in Malaysia, I had to ask the question While the Malaysian culture is diverse and split among three major ethnic groups (Malay, Tamil, and Chinese), the majority are Muslim. In large, metropolitan KL, it feels less conservative. Though they have an inkling about me because I am 33 and have no girlfriend.