At the same time, it's quite likely that you could write an equally long list of all the reasons it's a great idea to go out with your ex boyfriend again. While you're at it, here are a few great reasons that your ex boyfriend might make a perfect date now that a little water has gone under that bridge. If you need a little more incentive try dating a few other guys before you make up your mind.
You can probably sit down and write a mile long list of all the reasons that dating your ex boyfriend is a bad idea. A little time apart might be what you really need to gain some perspective and realize that he isn't as bad as you thought he was.
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When Kiri Blakely first met her ex, "he made me laugh like no other human being." But after a year of witty banter, Blakeley, a writer in her 30s in New York, wanted to get more serious, and Luke (not his real name), a bro bouncing around the city, didn't. and, a few months later, got back together with him. "I would think, Oh, he does want the same things; he knows he made a mistake.
3) You are already fairly certain that he's not some sort of axe murderer or otherwise crazy man.
Halpern-Meekin confirms that many couples who reunited were more likely to feel they'd "revealed their deepest self" to each other.
Whitney Burnett, 22, a student in Lawrence, Kansas, says she spent 2.5 years breaking up and reuniting with her ex-boyfriend because "we both have issues with our parents and we understood each other in a way that other people didn't," she says.
The more horror stories you hear about first dates and dating disasters the easier it is to make the decision to turn to the one that you know.
This is especially true if there's still a little chemistry going on between the two of you. If you really love each other it doesn't go away with a breakup.
It's quite likely that you'll find some of the same problems without the benefit of the good things that make you fall for your ex in the first place. It may sound like a cliché but there is more than a little truth to it.